Oh my goodness, what what was your experience like with your midwife? Can you remember?
Both times, I had great midwives and I hear lots of stories of people who didn’t.
I do not know what I would do if that was me. I’m really laid back and love people. I know that I’m very good at reading people – you know when you meet someone and they’re shy or not very forthcoming – well, I’m quite good at talking them around; I just get it!
That said, in the throws of labour, I’m not sure that I’d be that patient. Whilst I’m all loving towards people and, as my mother says, I think I’m Mother Theresa – haha! I, also, have a fiery, Irish temper and, when I need to say something, I say it. Yet I can still manage to say it nicely, but very firmly. If iI had a bad midwife at that point, I would have to say something, but I’d be so sad, surely it would ruin the whole experience? And that’s besides the fact that you feel totally at their mercy and expertise.
All that said, my midwives were great!
My first time, I don’t remember who they were during labour itself because I was sooooo out of it! The midwives’ after care, however, was sensational!
After my emergency c section, I remember calling the nursing alarm button, where they came over at your every demand, 1000 times a day to ask them ‘would they help me?’, or move me, help the baby, care for me, get me water, get me tablets…. they were so attentive, just amazing people.
I felt they were medical waitresses! They looked after me too well, always with a smile and a ‘never can do too much for you’ attitude.
The second time round, I requested my cousin to deliver my baby on her midwifery shift and she did! She was asking to, too, and I could see exactly why she had chosen the career that she did when she delivered mine- a beautiful experience with the beautiful NHS staff!
As today is International Day of the Midwife, let’s celebrate the amazing midwives out there who support us at our most vulnerable. What was your experience? I’d love to know.